30 Before 30

If you remember my 30 Before 30 from days gone by, this one is definitely  tweaked in some major ways. Also, it’s not really stuff that I plan on getting done before my 30th birthday. I’m giving myself through the end of 2018.

I guess there’s something at least somewhat exciting at starting your 30s as a newly-single mom? I feel like there’s a world of possibilities opening up to me. Did I ever want to be here? No. Am I glad to be here? More and more every day.

ANYWAY. On to the list. 🙂


1. Have a child.

I did, in fact, have a child! LBW (Wade) is the absolute best thing I have ever done with my life. The only reason I don’t regret the past decade of my life is because he was born.

2. Record at least 20 recipes in a cookbook.

I’ve actually purchased a recipe box with cards…I just need to sit down and write out some recipes! There are a few that I found on Pinterest that I make fairly regularly and it would be nice to have them accessible without needing to pull out my phone and get online. (Like I’m not on my phone 24/7, anyway.)

3. Start to work out regularly.

Damnit. I forget about this one all the time and get annoyed when I see it on my list… I should, but don’t want to, work out. >.>

4. Travel outside the US.

I’m going to Canada, you guys! It’s going to take care of at three things on this list, too!! (road trip, tattoo, travel outside the US)

5. Get a full sleeve tattoo.

I have an appointment scheduled with Yann Black next September. WORDS CANNOT DESCRIBE HOW EXCITED I AM RIGHT NOW.

6. Go on a road trip.

Currently the plan is to rent a car and spend several days driving up into Canada, get tattooed, then fly back to TN. I’M SO EXCITED.

7. Be debt free.

I have about $7k left on my car and about $3k that I took on during the divorce from a loan for the shop…which I really regret doing now, but whatever. I can’t believe I have $10k in debt. I need to go by the bank and see if I can consolidate and refinance and idk what other buzz words. I doubt I’ll get this one checked off, though.

8. Buy a new car.

I did buy a new car! Which is why I’m in debt. >.>

9. Make homemade home decorations.

This one was always vague and weird and I want to just check it off so I can have another thing done, darnit. Plus I have an embarrassing number of paintings that I’ve done up in the living room. Artist I am not, my friends.

10. Watch all of The Office on Netflix.

I forget when I watched this, but I did. It was hilarious. Everyone should do it at least once in their lives.

11. Build a website for Still Waters Mtn Retreat.

I sort of made a site for Mom and Dad using Bootstrap. It’s garbage. I should fix it before another year passes.

12. Learn to sew.

I have a sewing machine. I’ve never taken it out of the box. I have at least four Pinterest boards with things I want to make. GET ON IT, SARAH.

13. Read 400 books.

  • 2013: 85
  • 2014: 95
  • 2015: 52
  • 2016: 12 (I blame Wade for this.)
  • 2017: 92 and counting

400 – 336 = 64!

14. Bike 30 miles.

Next spring/summer/fall I want to bike a total of 30 miles. I toyed with the idea of doing it all in one go, but I’ll more than likely have Wade strapped to my bike, so that’s an extra 20-30 lbs I’ll be hauling…let’s not get too crazy, okay?

15. Find a new job.

I’ve been a web developer at MTSU since June!

16. Have sex every day for a month.

I did this. We made a baby. It was worth it. But f*ck him. (heh)

17. Get roommates.

Ironically, this used to be “Ditch the roommates.” but here I am, with two roommates. And this is preferred over living alone. Plus they pay rent! And I genuinely like them. We should have a sitcom. My house currently contains: 3 adults, 1 toddler, 3 dogs, and 2 cats.

18. Ditch the disposables.

I want to cut out paper plates, plastic cups/flatware, napkins, etc. and only use resuable things. Save the planet, yo. This is where learning to sew would be beneficial…I could make my own napkins/towels.

19. Make a family photo album every year.

I made 2015 & 2016 albums, plus a baby book for Wade’s first year, and I’ve started on a 2017 album. Mr. T was extremely considerate and moved out on our anniversary, so I was able to keep the same timeline with my newest book. Such a f*cking gentleman.

20. Grow my hair out to shoulder-length.

It’s close enough, and still growing. I really like the black hair! I am worried about damage, though. :\

21. Go on an adventure every year.

2013, 14, and 15 we went to Bonnaroo. 2016 we went to Pilgrimage Music & Art Festival. 2017 I’ve gone on the biggest effing adventure ever – divorce.

22. Make updates to the living room:

  • Remove shelves
  • paint over floors
  • hang pictures/art
  • hang curtains

23. Make updates to Wade’s room:

  • hang art
  • remove futon

24. Make updates to the upstairs:

  • paint trim
  • do…something…to stairwell and landing flooring
  • gallery wall/string art in the stairwell

25. Make updates to my bedroom:

  • hang art/mirrors
  • hang curtains

26. Make something challenging.

I want to build something. With power tools and sweat. And since all the crazy has gone down, I decided I want to build a bed frame for my new room. I BOUGHT A KING-SIZED BED YOU GUYS. I sleep in luxury now. Even if it is currently “mattress on the floor” luxury. lolol

27. Have a date night at a nice restaurant.

I did this with Mr. T when Wade was just a few months old. We ate at High Point and stayed in a cabin while my parents kept Wade overnight.

28. Get back out there.

I’m about to be a recently-divorced 29yo woman with a toddler, roommates, and serious trust issues. I can’t begin to imagine what sort of hi-jinks I’m going to experience while dating.

29. Write a 40 Before 40 list.

I’ve actually done this. I just need to transfer it over…and update it. Because I’m guessing a lot is going to change on it as well.

30. Have a BANGIN 30th birthday party.

I can’t wait to plan it. We’re gonna have fun, y’all. <3

Case of the Mondays?

Today feels awful Monday-y considering it’s Tuesday. I donated blood yesterday, then stayed up way too late. AND ran into the two people I least want to see right now. I didn’t have to interact with them…but just seeing them is enough to ruin your whole day. Anyway, other stuff happened, too. Good stuff. So don’t let the bad get you down, yo.

I really need to track down my old 30 Before 30 list and repost it. I’m midway through my 29th year, so it’s now or never! And I have to change…quite a bit of it now that I’m gonna be #singleandreadytomingle. One day I will look back on hashtags with the same disdain that I now give my “lolspeak” of 10 years ago. Even typing “lolspeak” makes me cringe now.

It’s been awhile since I posted. Are there any pressing questions you’d like answered?

#brandnewday!

Yup, the old blog is gone. I think – I hope – I have all the posts saved into a Word document. I was trying to figure out how to transfer the data from my old hosting to this one and could never get it to work, then figured I didn’t want all that old baggage all up in my bidness, anyway. It’s a fresh start, yo! A #brandnewday.

I have SO MUCH to tell you. None of which I want to. I’m afraid if I start it will quickly devolve into me just smashing my hands against my keyboard repeatedly in an incoherent rage. Plus a lot of it is very private and even though I’m the queen of the overshare I’m actually holding my cards pretty close with this one.

The very, very, very short version is… Mr. T decided he didn’t want to be married anymore. He moved out in August and our divorce will be finalized at the first of the year.

It…has not been a good year for me. As the months have progressed I’ve found out more and more and…I’m just amazed. Someone who was my best friend for nearly a decade ended up being someone I don’t know at all. I have nfc how I will ever be able to trust myself or another man again, considering how totally blindsided I was by this one. I’m in therapy, at least, and most of the time I feel like a competent and capable human being. The times I don’t, though…those times suck.

But! Screw him. Wade and I are going to be just fine. 🙂 And I’d like to take a moment to pat myself on the back because I have made it through all this without ever setting any of his things on fire, or breaking anything, or going crazy toward him. 99% of the time I can even interact with him without getting emotional! My goal is to get through this divorce without ending up in prison. Fingers crossed!