40 Before 40

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I originally made a 40 Before 40 list in August 2016, which feels like a totally different life now. Things have changed a lot since then. Like…a lot. lol! I honestly can’t imagine what my life is going to be like in 10 years. What kind of person I’ll be, or what I’ll want out of life. August 2016 Sarah did, though. Bless her heart. She was super wrong about a lot of stuff, though.

  1. Seriously consider/research adoption.
  2. Have Lasik to correct my vision.
  3. Get a boob job. (Excuse me – breast augmentation)
  4. Travel to Europe.
  5. Family trip to Disney World.
  6. Take a road trip out West.
  7. Foster at least 10 dogs. (not all at once, of course)
  8. Build my own computer.
  9. Own a 3D printer.
  10. Learn to play an instrument.
  11. Have at least 5 excessively extravagant spa days/weekends with my friends.
  12. Read 500 books.
  13. Complete a full kitchen/dining room renovation, including new appliances.
  14. Buy a new (to me) car.
  15. Go on a ladies’ retreat in an exotic location.
  16. Take one-on-one “Mommy & Me” overnight trips with my kid(s) at least once a year.
  17. Go on at least one overnight trip without the kid(s) at least once a year.
  18. Sew cool stuff. (maybe have a specific project every year?)
  19. Build cool stuff. (maybe have a specific project every year?)
  20. Learn to crochet and/or knit.
  21. Get into yogo or pilates or some kind of relaxing exercise routine.
  22. Join a gym and/or have a personal trainer for at least 6 months.
  23. Learn to snowboard.
  24. Start dying my hair fun colors again.
  25. See a play on Broadway.
  26. Learn how to bake delicious things from scratch.
  27. Learn how to cook delicious things from scratch.
  28. Own a Kitchenaid mixer, darnit!
  29. Host a multi-course meal for family/friends and cook (almost) everything.
  30. Eat at a five-star restaurant. Order something exotic.
  31. Go camping on the beach.
  32. Do some sort of mission/relief work.
  33. Make a “Family Yearbook” every year.
  34. Have “professional” family photos taken every year.
  35. Develop family traditions for things like birthdays, Christmas, NYE, etc.
  36. Find my style and upgrade my wardrobe.
  37. Find myself. (not 100% sure what this one means…)
  38. Be open to new experiences – friends, relationships, activities, etc.
  39. Get remarried.
  40. Celebrate “40 Days of 40” and do all sorts of amazing things the 40 days leading up to my birthday.

30 Before 30

If you remember my 30 Before 30 from days gone by, this one is definitely  tweaked in some major ways. Also, it’s not really stuff that I plan on getting done before my 30th birthday. I’m giving myself through the end of 2018.

I guess there’s something at least somewhat exciting at starting your 30s as a newly-single mom? I feel like there’s a world of possibilities opening up to me. Did I ever want to be here? No. Am I glad to be here? More and more every day.

ANYWAY. On to the list. 🙂


1. Have a child.

I did, in fact, have a child! LBW (Wade) is the absolute best thing I have ever done with my life. The only reason I don’t regret the past decade of my life is because he was born.

2. Record at least 20 recipes in a cookbook.

I’ve actually purchased a recipe box with cards…I just need to sit down and write out some recipes! There are a few that I found on Pinterest that I make fairly regularly and it would be nice to have them accessible without needing to pull out my phone and get online. (Like I’m not on my phone 24/7, anyway.)

3. Start to work out regularly.

Damnit. I forget about this one all the time and get annoyed when I see it on my list… I should, but don’t want to, work out. >.>

4. Travel outside the US.

I’m going to Canada, you guys! It’s going to take care of at three things on this list, too!! (road trip, tattoo, travel outside the US)

5. Get a full sleeve tattoo.

I have an appointment scheduled with Yann Black next September. WORDS CANNOT DESCRIBE HOW EXCITED I AM RIGHT NOW.

6. Go on a road trip.

Currently the plan is to rent a car and spend several days driving up into Canada, get tattooed, then fly back to TN. I’M SO EXCITED.

7. Be debt free.

I have about $7k left on my car and about $3k that I took on during the divorce from a loan for the shop…which I really regret doing now, but whatever. I can’t believe I have $10k in debt. I need to go by the bank and see if I can consolidate and refinance and idk what other buzz words. I doubt I’ll get this one checked off, though.

8. Buy a new car.

I did buy a new car! Which is why I’m in debt. >.>

9. Make homemade home decorations.

This one was always vague and weird and I want to just check it off so I can have another thing done, darnit. Plus I have an embarrassing number of paintings that I’ve done up in the living room. Artist I am not, my friends.

10. Watch all of The Office on Netflix.

I forget when I watched this, but I did. It was hilarious. Everyone should do it at least once in their lives.

11. Build a website for Still Waters Mtn Retreat.

I sort of made a site for Mom and Dad using Bootstrap. It’s garbage. I should fix it before another year passes.

12. Learn to sew.

I have a sewing machine. I’ve never taken it out of the box. I have at least four Pinterest boards with things I want to make. GET ON IT, SARAH.

13. Read 400 books.

  • 2013: 85
  • 2014: 95
  • 2015: 52
  • 2016: 12 (I blame Wade for this.)
  • 2017: 92 and counting

400 – 336 = 64!

14. Bike 30 miles.

Next spring/summer/fall I want to bike a total of 30 miles. I toyed with the idea of doing it all in one go, but I’ll more than likely have Wade strapped to my bike, so that’s an extra 20-30 lbs I’ll be hauling…let’s not get too crazy, okay?

15. Find a new job.

I’ve been a web developer at MTSU since June!

16. Have sex every day for a month.

I did this. We made a baby. It was worth it. But f*ck him. (heh)

17. Get roommates.

Ironically, this used to be “Ditch the roommates.” but here I am, with two roommates. And this is preferred over living alone. Plus they pay rent! And I genuinely like them. We should have a sitcom. My house currently contains: 3 adults, 1 toddler, 3 dogs, and 2 cats.

18. Ditch the disposables.

I want to cut out paper plates, plastic cups/flatware, napkins, etc. and only use resuable things. Save the planet, yo. This is where learning to sew would be beneficial…I could make my own napkins/towels.

19. Make a family photo album every year.

I made 2015 & 2016 albums, plus a baby book for Wade’s first year, and I’ve started on a 2017 album. Mr. T was extremely considerate and moved out on our anniversary, so I was able to keep the same timeline with my newest book. Such a f*cking gentleman.

20. Grow my hair out to shoulder-length.

It’s close enough, and still growing. I really like the black hair! I am worried about damage, though. :\

21. Go on an adventure every year.

2013, 14, and 15 we went to Bonnaroo. 2016 we went to Pilgrimage Music & Art Festival. 2017 I’ve gone on the biggest effing adventure ever – divorce.

22. Make updates to the living room:

  • Remove shelves
  • paint over floors
  • hang pictures/art
  • hang curtains

23. Make updates to Wade’s room:

  • hang art
  • remove futon

24. Make updates to the upstairs:

  • paint trim
  • do…something…to stairwell and landing flooring
  • gallery wall/string art in the stairwell

25. Make updates to my bedroom:

  • hang art/mirrors
  • hang curtains

26. Make something challenging.

I want to build something. With power tools and sweat. And since all the crazy has gone down, I decided I want to build a bed frame for my new room. I BOUGHT A KING-SIZED BED YOU GUYS. I sleep in luxury now. Even if it is currently “mattress on the floor” luxury. lolol

27. Have a date night at a nice restaurant.

I did this with Mr. T when Wade was just a few months old. We ate at High Point and stayed in a cabin while my parents kept Wade overnight.

28. Get back out there.

I’m about to be a recently-divorced 29yo woman with a toddler, roommates, and serious trust issues. I can’t begin to imagine what sort of hi-jinks I’m going to experience while dating.

29. Write a 40 Before 40 list.

I’ve actually done this. I just need to transfer it over…and update it. Because I’m guessing a lot is going to change on it as well.

30. Have a BANGIN 30th birthday party.

I can’t wait to plan it. We’re gonna have fun, y’all. <3